Filling my car with gas the other day in Tucson, Arizona, I looked at the people around me. I thought about their lives, where they were rushing to, what kind of struggles they have, and how they compared to me. I thought about success, what that means and what we’re all chasing. Then it struck me. I had forgotten my mission.
When I’m not my true self, I compare myself to others and judge them. I want to be better than them. I want them to like me or respect me. Then I think about my limitations and failures and try to dismiss them, and think, “but I’ve done this and I’ve done that.” What craziness!
The Monkey Mind was running rampant, taking my thoughts in various directions, injecting comparison to others and self-consciousness. Most people live their lives caught between busyness, boredom, and anxiety. If they’re not busy, they’re bored or anxious.
Is that you? When you’re with strangers, where are your thoughts?
Even if your thoughts are on your goals, that may bring anxiety, because you can’t fully control them. Since the ego is always threatened by failure, it wants to compare to others and find some way to say “I am somebody, I have this over you.” Goals can be tyrants, making us needy as we continually check to see if that which we badly want is going to happen or not.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a professional athlete, CEO, or on unemployment. When you don’t have a purpose beyond your goals, happiness, or success, anxiety and fear are often near. What’s missing? Meaning and purpose. Goals to achieve greatly are important–the world needs us to use our gifts–but in order to reach them we need to think big, beyond the gold medal or million dollars.
To have a great life, to feel fully alive and have the freedom to fail comes from meaning, and meaning comes from having a purpose beyond yourself.
I’ll bet if you and I went to help the earthquake victims in Haiti tomorrow our self-consciousness, judgment, and anxiety would fade. Why? Because we would be focused on making a difference. We would be on a mission.
Doubt, anxiety, and fear all stem from focus on ourselves. Love however, focused on others, to contribute and to serve, is the most powerful force on earth. We were created to love, which is why when we give out love, it comes back to us. It may come back from a different person or source, but it always comes back.
My mission is to empower people around the world to shift their mindset and change the world they live in. I teach people how to live fully and achieve greatly, and not get trapped in a world trying to make us like everyone else.
We were meant to live abundantly, but so often we get caught up in our circumstances and failures and lose out on the beauty all around us. When I focus on my mission, I am authentic and powerful.
To be authentic is to surrender your old life for a new one. Our biggest challenge is to let go of the past. It’s human nature to cling on to what just happened or some failure or wrong-doing, but when you focus on a purpose beyond yourself, using your gifts to make the world a better place, you become powerful.
When you’re standing around, caught among strangers, your thoughts will be creative, engaging, and empowering. You will feel more connected to the people and environment around you, with less judgment and more compassion. Ideas will come–original thoughts, new ways of looking at things, and people will want to be around you. You’ll be able to just be you, to fail valiently and get up again and again. You’ll be able to perform with freedom because while your goals direct you, your mission empowers you.
What is your mission?